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Have you found love online?

Maybe you have and maybe you haven't.  I was reading this article on cnn and it really got me thinking about how different life is now then it was ten years ago.  I, personally have never gone online in search of romance but I know many people who have and it seems to have worked for them.  Now, there is a new term floating around called "Mobile Romance".  No, you don't make-out with your phone but you instead post your dating profile online and you will automatically receive a text-message on a GPS enabled phone when a match is nearby.  This has already been working in China.  And there are similar programs like Dodgeball already here in the U.S.  It got me thinking, what's next for online dating? 

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  • Ted BracewellTed Bracewell

    I've definitely had crushes, some major, on girls I've met online. But, I wasn't seeking them when I met them. I just came across them on a forum, or by other means. As far as actual online dating services are concerned, I haven't thrown my hat into that ring. I'm kind of wary of it... and a little shy Smiley But I do think the mobile romance idea sounds pretty neat.

  • Ted BracewellTed Bracewell

    I've definitely had crushes, some major, on girls I've met online. But, I wasn't seeking them when I met them. I just came across them on a forum, or by other means. As far as actual online dating services are concerned, I haven't thrown my hat into that ring. I'm kind of wary of it... and a little shy Smiley But I do think the mobile romance idea sounds pretty neat.

  • Ted BracewellTed Bracewell

    I admit it... the soil-mate line got a grin out of me. Smiley

  • Ted BracewellTed Bracewell

    I admit it... the soil-mate line got a grin out of me. Smiley

  • Well Miss Wood...while I haven't FOUND love online, I have definitely nourished love online. If you give good IM, you've got me Smiley

  • Matthew MushallMatthew Mushall

    I have very mixed feelings on this issue.  It feels so artificial at face value and you really have to pursue it or talk to people who've found it before you can believe it.  I've been through two online relationships that just never went anywhere.  Well, at least one didn't, but things just never came together.  College life and distance tend to complicate things all the time.  It's really fun to flirt on IM or through a video chat, but things just break down when you're face to face with the person you've spent all this time communicating with.

    I prefer meeting and getting to know people in person.  Sure, it can be a little nervous or annoying, but the rewards are greater and the experience is a little more exhilerating.  The down side is when it fails...it feels even worse.  Of course, online romance leads to geniune love, so there is definately something there.

    I'm a bit shy myself, but I've taken a few risks every now and again.  I think the real deal is a better start than online love, but I'm open to the possibilities.  Besides, online services enable people to meet that never might have met in person.  Mobile romance seems like a great idea.

  • Matthew MushallMatthew Mushall

    I have very mixed feelings on this issue.  It feels so artificial at face value and you really have to pursue it or talk to people who've found it before you can believe it.  I've been through two online relationships that just never went anywhere.  Well, at least one didn't, but things just never came together.  College life and distance tend to complicate things all the time.  It's really fun to flirt on IM or through a video chat, but things just break down when you're face to face with the person you've spent all this time communicating with.

    I prefer meeting and getting to know people in person.  Sure, it can be a little nervous or annoying, but the rewards are greater and the experience is a little more exhilerating.  The down side is when it fails...it feels even worse.  Of course, online romance leads to geniune love, so there is definately something there.

    I'm a bit shy myself, but I've taken a few risks every now and again.  I think the real deal is a better start than online love, but I'm open to the possibilities.  Besides, online services enable people to meet that never might have met in person.  Mobile romance seems like a great idea.

  • funksoulbrofunksoulbro

    That sounds like a great idea as it increases the likelyhood of a chance meeting.

    Well from what I've understood from a published study in the UK is that people who are looking and posting their profile have a hard time dealing with the frequent subtle rejection. One may like your profile and initiate a conversation which becomes engaging but then comes the second and third photo and it may not be like they expected, and then they either decline politely or they never answer you back. I think it wears you out eventually...

  • funksoulbrofunksoulbro

    That sounds like a great idea as it increases the likelyhood of a chance meeting.

    Well from what I've understood from a published study in the UK is that people who are looking and posting their profile have a hard time dealing with the frequent subtle rejection. One may like your profile and initiate a conversation which becomes engaging but then comes the second and third photo and it may not be like they expected, and then they either decline politely or they never answer you back. I think it wears you out eventually...

  • Ted BracewellTed Bracewell

    The internet is one of the greatest and worst things to happen to relationships I think. I mean I know dozens of people I consider real friends that I only know online. I've never met them in person, and probably never will. But we play games together, are on the same message boards and chat rooms, etc. I've known them for years, mostly on G4 and Allgames. They're great people I never would've met without the internet. But then, I think the internet can keep you from going out and forming real relationships with actual physical people. Sure, you can chat with a screen name, laugh with it, or chainsaw it in Gears of Wars, but you can't go out and catch a movie with it.

    Not that I've tried.

  • Ted BracewellTed Bracewell

    The internet is one of the greatest and worst things to happen to relationships I think. I mean I know dozens of people I consider real friends that I only know online. I've never met them in person, and probably never will. But we play games together, are on the same message boards and chat rooms, etc. I've known them for years, mostly on G4 and Allgames. They're great people I never would've met without the internet. But then, I think the internet can keep you from going out and forming real relationships with actual physical people. Sure, you can chat with a screen name, laugh with it, or chainsaw it in Gears of Wars, but you can't go out and catch a movie with it.

    Not that I've tried.

  • DenginDengin

    ROFL, That was funny. Your hawtness is only surpassed by your coolness.

  • DenginDengin

    ROFL, That was funny. Your hawtness is only surpassed by your coolness.

  • DenginDengin

    Well,. yes, actually I have, but I don't want to talk about it Tongue Out

    Like Teddy said, the Internet is the best and worst thing that has happened to relationships. I've been on-line since the Bitnet relay days (1991), and I've seen and heard it all, found love, lost love, affairs, crimes of passion, etc. It hasn't been pretty. But then, in some cases, shamefully few, it's worked out well, as the gentleman below mentioned.

    As for the future, it's up to the people, they need to realize the dynamics of on-line relationships. No site can match a person due to a boxed set of 'compatibilities', that's just not giong to work, you need the face time, the real-life compatibility test. The Internet offers a level of anonimity that can help on the one hand, by offering people a chance to feel each other out so to speak without the initial awkwardness of social situations, but it also tends to obscure some very important facts about people that you really need to know to determine whether or not you're compatible with someone. Technology will change, it'll make things easier to connect people, which is how the internet started, as a way to exchange information between government and educational instititions, the whole 'relationship' thing was a predictable side-effect. If you give people a chance to connect, in whatever way, shape or form, they will find a way to turn it into something that works for them.

     

  • DenginDengin

    Well,. yes, actually I have, but I don't want to talk about it Tongue Out

    Like Teddy said, the Internet is the best and worst thing that has happened to relationships. I've been on-line since the Bitnet relay days (1991), and I've seen and heard it all, found love, lost love, affairs, crimes of passion, etc. It hasn't been pretty. But then, in some cases, shamefully few, it's worked out well, as the gentleman below mentioned.

    As for the future, it's up to the people, they need to realize the dynamics of on-line relationships. No site can match a person due to a boxed set of 'compatibilities', that's just not giong to work, you need the face time, the real-life compatibility test. The Internet offers a level of anonimity that can help on the one hand, by offering people a chance to feel each other out so to speak without the initial awkwardness of social situations, but it also tends to obscure some very important facts about people that you really need to know to determine whether or not you're compatible with someone. Technology will change, it'll make things easier to connect people, which is how the internet started, as a way to exchange information between government and educational instititions, the whole 'relationship' thing was a predictable side-effect. If you give people a chance to connect, in whatever way, shape or form, they will find a way to turn it into something that works for them.

     

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    Smiley just test....

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    Smiley just test....

  • Brandon PaddockBrandon Paddock

    (Attempt #2 since my last comment appears to have gotten lost en route)

    That's an interesting idea, but I just don't see it ever reaching "critical mass" as online match-making certainly has.  There are more requirements of users and I think especially when you're talking about strangers on the internet, people want more control and don't want it butting in when they're going about their "real lives."  But I've been wrong before, and I guess I can't fairly judge it until I've seen it work.

    As for online dating - I gave it a shot when I first moved to Seattle and had  good experiences.  Even though I'm single again right now, I've made some good friends that way and dated some good people.  There were a few oddballs in there too, but nothing scary like what you imagine.  I think it's an especially great thing for people that move really long distances as I did last year.

  • Brandon PaddockBrandon Paddock

    (Attempt #2 since my last comment appears to have gotten lost en route)

    That's an interesting idea, but I just don't see it ever reaching "critical mass" as online match-making certainly has.  There are more requirements of users and I think especially when you're talking about strangers on the internet, people want more control and don't want it butting in when they're going about their "real lives."  But I've been wrong before, and I guess I can't fairly judge it until I've seen it work.

    As for online dating - I gave it a shot when I first moved to Seattle and had  good experiences.  Even though I'm single again right now, I've made some good friends that way and dated some good people.  There were a few oddballs in there too, but nothing scary like what you imagine.  I think it's an especially great thing for people that move really long distances as I did last year.

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