Advice needed

I found out today that my ex-wife is getting married in two weeks.  I know I should be happy for her but Im not.  I can tell youright now, I got this empty feeling in the pit of my stomach like I just drank 2 gallons of laxative.  Her and her soon to be new husband sent me an invitation and I have been staring at the sucker for 2 hours like I wanna burn it or send it back.  the kids and my parents are going, everyone thinks I should go.  So my question is, do I suck it up, put on the trench coat and go?  or what would you guys do?  heres the worst part, they are having the ceremony on the same beach we got married on. 

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Yeah, I wouldn't go... and wouldn't regret it.

I can't think of a single way that you'd regret not going.

The same beach? Man, that sucks.

I know I wouldn't go. If you feel bad now, imagine what you'll be like after going to this thing. [C]

I wouldn't go, but wouldn't be petty about it either. Just return a polite "No Thank You" or "I have a previous commitment."

Even if you had someone new it still would be far too freaky...

I LOOOOOVVVVVVEEEEE that flow chart!!!

I am so cracking up.

If my ex invited me to her wedding, I'd probably go. But only if they have an open bar.

Maryam says "if you've moved on go, if you haven't moved on, don't go."

Just been through something similar, and we were married for 32 years!

Say yes to keep the kids and your folks happy, get sick the day before.

Do you have custody of your kids or does she? If you do then go to be the "better man" it's instances like that that stand out in your kids minds (depending on their age).

If she does and your kids are old enough you might want to spend a day before the wedding with them and just explain that you'd like to go however you wouldn't feel comfortable....or don't feel it would be proper...things like that.

If your kids are too young then return the RSVP, tell the new guy "I got married on this beach and see where I'm at", go have a few drinks with his sister and who knows what might happen.

Honestly I wanted to be nice and decent but I can't stand stuff like that.

rjdohnert wrote:

heres the worst part, they are having the ceremony on the same beach we got married on. 

I have custody.  Even though my daughter is not my biological daughter, I have raised her since she was 6 months old I adopted her officially when she was 7 years old.  My son is our only bilogical child together.  When we seperated she said that with her career she didnt want to be "anchored" down.  The kids love my new girlfriend.  Everytime we get ready to go somewhere the first question I get is " Is Sara going to be there?"  If I say no, they drag themselves if I say "Yeah" you cant get them into the car fast enough.  Sara has said if I decide to go she would go.

Cybermagellan wrote:

Do you have custody of your kids or does she? If you do then go to be the "better man" it's instances like that that stand out in your kids minds (depending on their age).

If she does and your kids are old enough you might want to spend a day before the wedding with them and just explain that you'd like to go however you wouldn't feel comfortable....or don't feel it would be proper...things like that.

If your kids are too young then return the RSVP, tell the new guy "I got married on this beach and see where I'm at", go have a few drinks with his sister and who knows what might happen.

Honestly I wanted to be nice and decent but I can't stand stuff like that.

rjdohnert wrote:

I have custody.  Even though my daughter is not my biological daughter, I have raised her since she was 6 months old I adopted her officially when she was 7 years old.  My son is our only bilogical child together.  When we seperated she said that with her career she didnt want to be "anchored" down.  The kids love my new girlfriend.  Everytime we get ready to go somewhere the first question I get is " Is Sara going to be there?"  If I say no, they drag themselves if I say "Yeah" you cant get them into the car fast enough.  Sara has said if I decide to go she would go.

It's not so important what you will do to the wedding event. I suggest you to have a very honest talk with your ex-wife, be prepared to learn some precious lessons by listening to her side of story about your relationship failure. Otherwise, you will always be unhappy no matter what you decide to do.

jmsma2005 wrote:

It's not so important what you will do to the wedding event. I suggest you to have a very honest talk with your ex-wife, be prepared to learn some precious lessons by listening to her side of story about your relationship failure. Otherwise, you will always be unhappy no matter what you decide to do.

jmsma2005 wrote:

It's not so important what you will do to the wedding event. I suggest you to have a very honest talk with your ex-wife, be prepared to learn some precious lessons by listening to her side of story about your relationship failure. Otherwise, you will always be unhappy no matter what you decide to do.

Cider wrote:

Hark at Dr Phil there...

Just go, dude.  As CyberM says "its best for the kids...and DIE STEVE JOBS DIE!!!"  (ok, maybe not the latter part....this time).

Indeed, as a peace offering, why not get a photo of your wedding, photoshop the new husband in, and give it to your ex-wife as a "Wedding Photo Preview".  Actually, don't do that...

Cybermagellan wrote:

jmsma2005 wrote: It's not so important what you will do to the wedding event. I suggest you to have a very honest talk with your ex-wife, be prepared to learn some precious lessons by listening to her side of story about your relationship failure. Otherwise, you will always be unhappy no matter what you decide to do.

OK, and when you get married then come back. He hasn't said anything on WHY he got divorced...maybe she was a crack addict (Just an example). Maybe it's not his fault (Don't wanna know).

Maybe his new girlfriend is a stripper? I mean things don't ALWAYS have to be the guys fault...