Will you leave your girlfriend or wife when you became rich?

I told my bf that I don't like to programming, and he promised me that he won't let me do what I don't want do in next year, and he already has a business plan on convenience store, this is the most warmly words I never heard before. He told me lots of things about his plan which contain of tons of business terms I don't know, but I like it. I knew I have a stronger motive for making money, but also knew I am lacking the necessary knowledge or stupid in business, so I think my position should be for help my bf, and take care of him, but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich, even he said love me. I don't want to make a beautiful bottom drawer which is not for myself.

Leaving a girl, just because you have become rich?
Hell no!

Chadk wrote:



Leaving a girl, just because you have become rich?
Hell no!

"but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

leighsword,

Some guys (like me) are still trying to get a girlfriend after two decades while here you talking about them leaving. :O

LOL, I must be over-reacting or something.


Regards,
Vincent

Harlequin wrote:

"but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

jaylittle wrote:

If you are worried about him leaving you when he becomes rich either:

1) Find a guy you don't have to worry about.

2) Marry him so that when he does leave you get half.

jaylittle wrote:

2) Marry him so that when he does leave you get half.

Why don't you hedge your bets and get rich yourself, then if he pulls a Dear John, you'll be set!

Like Harlequin said, it sounds like you have doubts.  I don't know what you want out of life, but it sounds like he's offering for you to "settle down."

Do you want to settle down?
Do you want to own a convenience store?
Do you want to get married to this guy and have his kids?

I think that's his plan.  Then again, if he's handsome and kind, go for it

Define rich.

I think you can better focus on making sure he gets some good advice, an outside look on his business plan from an expert, etc. Then to worry about if he will leave or not, will you leave if you became rich?

I don't have a clue how all this works in china, but for example, making a lot of money out of 1 convenience store over here in a year time from starting up sounds like black magic to me. You will probaly be closed to the minimum or avarage income, then to the making a lot of income. 

The chance that he will become rich, a millionaire or close out of only 1 convenience store like that is very small if you ask me. You need a few of those stores at least. Setting them up, running them, and making maximum profit out of them in a year time is a hell of a job for someone who just starts this. There comes a lot more to this than just opening the doors in the morning and selling products.
I am not saying he should not do this, but if he does he should minimize the risk. Because if the idea in his head was a bit to bright and not that realistic, you probaly need to do a lot more programming. So, let some expert take a look. They over here won't give you a loan if they are not sure you have gold in your hands, I gues/assume that situtation is the same in China, but that might for some weird reason differ.

What if his project doesn't go as planned(the wrong direction)? What is the financial situation, for you and him then?

I'd never leave a g/f or wife just because I became right, but I'd be worried that I'd get rich and that they'd leave me and clean me out of money they didnt earn.

I wouldn't leave my wife If I became rich; shoot, if I become rich it will most likely be due to the work that we both did together She works in Military Dentistry, and I'm a software engineer...so we are constantly racing to see who can make the most money Not really, but we both do pretty well.

Being rich means NOTHING if you have nobody to share it with. And you certainly don't want to share it with somebody who you doesn't really know truly. My wife and I are not rich right now, but perhaps someday we will be (until we have kids!).

If you love this guy, marry him. If he decides he doesn't want you when he's rich, then make him poor And besides, you're an attractive woman - there are thousands of niners who would love to buy you dinner I bet many of them are making pretty good money, too I wish my wife was a software engineer! But noooooo. She has to be in dentistry, and always hackle me about my teeth and making sure I floss, blah blah blah

Why can't my wife just see how COOL the world of programming really is

HumanCompiler wrote:


 Opposites attract for good reasons. 

Worse is one you leave who keeps returning...  rich or poor.

Depends if I could get a better one really!  I dont love my g/f just yet so it wouldnt be much of a switch over....

HumanCompiler wrote:



Ang3lFir3 wrote:  Harlequin wrote: "but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich" Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this... QFT... sounds to me like you are thinking too much about things leigh.... try a little Taoism .... don't worry so much about things you can't control....

True, but is there really that much in this world you can't control?  Especially in the situation of finding happiness in another person?  Don't we all control our own destinies? 

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