You're preaching the the choir. My mother has been disabled (for rheumatoid arthritis) for over 10 years now. She's also battling cancer, so let's not make this a pissing contest. My mother worked very hard when she was able to, and raised 5 children on her own after divorce.ScanIAm said:jonathansampson said:*snip*
You know what? You are correct.
My 64 year old mother with rheumatoid arthritis, who could never afford to get an advanced education, and is now collecting about $700 a month from social security should just work harder.
She stupidly spent all of her meager income raising my younger siblings, when she should have used food and shelter money for a 6 month emergency fund.
I wish she would just grow up and get a job. It's too bad that she, like many women who go through a divorce, ended up much poorer, but I'm sure it must be her fault, somehow.
Verily, in the land of douches, thine is the nozzle.
My mother never banked on her children taking care of her, but she instilled enough in us that we do when we can. I help my mother with bills, I help my brothers and sisters with bills. That's the way a family works. I refuse to be mandated by the government to do it for anybody else, but that's likely where we're heading.
If your mother needs help, help her. Some people, like our mothers, have to live with sickening diseases and simply cannot do. But don't you dare think that our mother's conditions justify every other person out there who can work, but won't. If my mother could, she'd still be working in factories, or road-side construction, or anything else she could find just as she did my entire life.
I hope your siblings did what my brothers and sisters and I did when we turned of age to work, we all got jobs. Next month my mother-in-law will be moving in with my wife and I so we can take care of her too.
The advice I've been giving here is for those who can, but won't. Not for those who would, but can't. And you know that.