, Maddus Mattus wrote

@Ian2:  giving for the sake of giving, in my opinion, only serves to soothe the consience of the giver and does not help the receiver.

So given the above I would say that 'giving for the sake of giving' is a part of stage 1 (per my previous post), and definitely of value.  Stage 2 is then ensuring that the gift is used appropriately (and , if you like, is perceived as being valuable and empowering to the receiver.)