Will you leave your girlfriend or wife when you became rich? | The Coffeehouse

leighsword
LeighSword

I told my bf that I don't like to programming, and he promised me that he won't let me do what I don't want do in next year, and he already has a business plan on convenience store, this is the most warmly words I never heard before. He told me lots of things about his plan which contain of tons of business terms I don't know, but I like it. I knew I have a stronger motive for making money, but also knew I am lacking the necessary knowledge or stupid in business, so I think my position should be for help my bf, and take care of him, but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich, even he said love me. I don't want to make a beautiful bottom drawer which is not for myself.

Chadk
excuse me - do you has a flavor?

Leaving a girl, just because you have become rich?
Hell no!

leighsword
LeighSword

Chadk wrote:

Leaving a girl, just because you have become rich?
Hell no!

In fact, the answers are not important to me, because I have gave my words that will be the staff of store without pay, this may my last chance, and put all my eggs in the basket. Thanks for the reply, I also want know what you guys think.

Harlequin
http://twitter.com/TrueHarlequin

"but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

Xaero_Vincent
Sexy me

leighsword,

Some guys (like me) are still trying to get a girlfriend after two decades while here you talking about them leaving. :O

LOL, I must be over-reacting or something. Wink

Regards,
Vincent

Ang3lFir3
Codito Ergo Sum

Harlequin wrote:
"but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

QFT...

sounds to me like you are thinking too much about things leigh.... try a little Taoism .... don't worry so much about things you can't control....

Angus
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jaylittle wrote:
If you are worried about him leaving you when he becomes rich either:

1) Find a guy you don't have to worry about.

2) Marry him so that when he does leave you get half.

Wise words. Tongue Out

Angus Higgins

Harlequin
http://twitter.com/TrueHarlequin

jaylittle wrote:

2) Marry him so that when he does leave you get half.

Would this apply to Chinese laws though?

HumanCompiler
Compiling humans...and code

Ang3lFir3 wrote:

Harlequin wrote: "but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

QFT...

sounds to me like you are thinking too much about things leigh.... try a little Taoism .... don't worry so much about things you can't control....

True, but is there really that much in this world you can't control? Especially in the situation of finding happiness in another person? Don't we all control our own destinies? Cool

</philisophical>

armbrat
Ricky

Why don't you hedge your bets and get rich yourself, then if he pulls a Dear John, you'll be set!

Like Harlequin said, it sounds like you have doubts. I don't know what you want out of life, but it sounds like he's offering for you to "settle down."

Do you want to settle down?
Do you want to own a convenience store?
Do you want to get married to this guy and have his kids?

I think that's his plan. Then again, if he's handsome and kind, go for it Tongue Out

erik_
Tablet Power

Define rich.

I think you can better focus on making sure he gets some good advice, an outside look on his business plan from an expert, etc. Then to worry about if he will leave or not, will you leave if you became rich?

I don't have a clue how all this works in china, but for example, making a lot of money out of 1 convenience store over here in a year time from starting up sounds like black magic to me. You will probaly be closed to the minimum or avarage income, then to the making a lot of income.

The chance that he will become rich, a millionaire or close out of only 1 convenience store like that is very small if you ask me. You need a few of those stores at least. Setting them up, running them, and making maximum profit out of them in a year time is a hell of a job for someone who just starts this. There comes a lot more to this than just opening the doors in the morning and selling products.
I am not saying he should not do this, but if he does he should minimize the risk. Because if the idea in his head was a bit to bright and not that realistic, you probaly need to do a lot more programming. So, let some expert take a look. They over here won't give you a loan if they are not sure you have gold in your hands, I gues/assume that situtation is the same in China, but that might for some weird reason differ.

What if his project doesn't go as planned(the wrong direction)? What is the financial situation, for you and him then?

Jason Cox
Longtime C9 Lurker

I'd never leave a g/f or wife just because I became right, but I'd be worried that I'd get rich and that they'd leave me and clean me out of money they didnt earn.

jsampsonPC
SampsonBlog.com SampsonVideos.com

I wouldn't leave my wife If I became rich; shoot, if I become rich it will most likely be due to the work that we both did together Smiley

She works in Military Dentistry, and I'm a software engineer...so we are constantly racing to see who can make the most money Smiley

Not really, but we both do pretty well.

Being rich means NOTHING if you have nobody to share it with. And you certainly don't want to share it with somebody who you doesn't really know truly. My wife and I are not rich right now, but perhaps someday we will be (until we have kids!).

If you love this guy, marry him. If he decides he doesn't want you when he's rich, then make him poor Wink

And besides, you're an attractive woman - there are thousands of niners who would love to buy you dinner Smiley

I bet many of them are making pretty good money, too Smiley

I wish my wife was a software engineer! Smiley

But noooooo. She has to be in dentistry, and always hackle me about my teeth and making sure I floss, blah blah blah Smiley

Why can't my wife just see how COOL the world of programming really is Smiley

HumanCompiler
Compiling humans...and code

jsampsonPC wrote:
Why can't my wife just see how COOL the world of programming really is

You're better off her doing something completely different than you. I'm a programmer and my wife's an (aspiring) opera singer and we couldn't be happier. We have equal respect for what the other does and wouldn't want to be with someone of the same type of profession. Can you imagine the drama that would go on if two opera singers married? Or the shear boringness (a word I just made up) of two programmers being married? No offense to anyone in those situations. Wink

Opposites attract for good reasons. Big Smile

jamie

HumanCompiler wrote:

Opposites attract for good reasons.

agree completely. in the c9 interview (sorry) when asked about my better half all i said was shes seen some cartoons etc

i should have said:

tory is the best. she is my strength and life.
if you find someone that is totally cool - (yet opposite of you) you are one lucky person
Smiley

JohnAskew
9 girl in pink sweater

Worse is one you leave who keeps returning... rich or poor.

Wink

ElucidWeb

Depends if I could get a better one really! I dont love my g/f just yet so it wouldnt be much of a switch over....

Ang3lFir3
Codito Ergo Sum

HumanCompiler wrote:

Ang3lFir3 wrote:

Harlequin wrote: "but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

QFT...

sounds to me like you are thinking too much about things leigh.... try a little Taoism .... don't worry so much about things you can't control....

True, but is there really that much in this world you can't control? Especially in the situation of finding happiness in another person? Don't we all control our own destinies?

</philisophical>

the "what has been" and the "yet to be" are two things you can not control.... no matter how much people believe they can....

phrases like "what will be, will be" and "the past is over" have stuck around for a long time due to the shear truth that they so wholy portray..... life happens.... every day....

jason818_253.33
Yippi skippy

I enjoy hearing what people have to say.

'They' say money changes people. Is that true??? or does money just have a way of amplifying who the person really is?

I hope your bf does well with his buissness plan. and I hope he appriceates you and your suport. But i hope your not afraid of what the future may hold.

on a different note.
what your talking about is deeper than money, or a buisness plan. when you cut down to it your talking about a relation ship and love.

change happens and like others have said you cant controle every thing, especialy others and what they do. have confidence in your self. You have alot to offer. dont settle for second bests when you deserve the best. and i think every one deserves what it is your getting at. People deserve to be respected. treated kindly, not to be used, or walked out on. fairness, and honesty.

Ether a person offers those traits or they dont, and it doesnt matter wether they have alot of money or not. of course people can change, but for the most part I believe, if you find some one with the given qualitys above they more often than not have a grounding foundation that will stay true given variouse situations.

jason818_253.33
Yippi skippy

post to my self.

Yikes thier mr jason818_253.33. What in the world are you talking about. what does love have to do with coding and technology? get the frik off this forum right now mr.
besides, your working far to many hrs this week. get home and see your own family.

jason818_253.33
Yippi skippy

errr... your right. ... laters.... Wink

rjdohnert
You will never know success until you know failure

To answer the original question. No. Why would I leave her? But that b&^tch would be signing a prenup

HumanCompiler
Compiling humans...and code

Ang3lFir3 wrote:

HumanCompiler wrote:

Ang3lFir3 wrote:

Harlequin wrote: "but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

QFT...

sounds to me like you are thinking too much about things leigh.... try a little Taoism .... don't worry so much about things you can't control....

True, but is there really that much in this world you can't control? Especially in the situation of finding happiness in another person? Don't we all control our own destinies?

</philisophical>

the "what has been" and the "yet to be" are two things you can not control.... no matter how much people believe they can....

phrases like "what will be, will be" and "the past is over" have stuck around for a long time due to the shear truth that they so wholy portray..... life happens.... every day....

True, true, but why does "life happen"? Is it not because of the choices we make? Or is there no such thing as choice? Starting to sound like the Matrix. Perplexed

leighsword
LeighSword

Harlequin wrote:
"but sometimes I wonder he will leave me or not when he became rich"

Because you asked this, it means you have doubts about him. If you truly knew him then you wouldn't have to ask this...

Not really, I just think it was difficult not to be tempted,just like ElucidWeb said,if you have a better choice...

leighsword
LeighSword

armbrat wrote:
Why don't you hedge your bets and get rich yourself, then if he pulls a Dear John, you'll be set!

Like Harlequin said, it sounds like you have doubts. I don't know what you want out of life, but it sounds like he's offering for you to "settle down."

Do you want to settle down?
Do you want to own a convenience store?
Do you want to get married to this guy and have his kids?

I think that's his plan. Then again, if he's handsome and kind, go for it

I want to settle down with safe.
I want to have my own business.
I am not sure,at least he is tall,and I think it's good for our kids.
Sometimes I think I want more than what I am able to pay.